Find Hope.
Safe Helps exists to prevent suicide, to educate about the road that leads to suicide, and to comfort suicide survivors.
Who We Are
Safe Helps Group rose from the ashes in 2023 when twenty-eight-year-old Abigail Witmer Ernst died by suicide. Abbie was the daughter of Pastor Tobe and Amy Witmer of Newark, Delaware. She was a brilliant, successful married woman who could not resolve several issues within. In the weeks following her death, Safe Helps Group was born with the mission of sparing others from such a fate and their loved ones from such horrific loss.
How We Can Help You
ENGAGEMENT
The main avenues of ministry for Safe Helps involves speaking engagements in organizations, churches, civic groups, colleges, schools, conferences, seminars, etc. The menu of available topics includes suicide prevention and understanding the road that leads to suicide; ministering to those affected by suicide loss; strategies of safely engaging with the suicidal; and understanding complicated grief.
OTHER HELPS
As a pastor for 32 years and Delaware State Police Chaplain – Tobe is equipped to minister in many ways to the greater church and community. Amy has been a teacher in both the school and church settings for many years as well. Additional helps include special church meetings; mission conferences; pastoral problem resolution; family seminars; marriage seminars; pastoral encouragement; men’s and women’s meetings and other ministry helps.
Tobe and Amy Witmer
Founders
Tobe and Amy Witmer founded Safe Helps Group in 2023 after the loss of their daughter, Abigail to suicide. Tobe has been in pastoral ministry since 1992. He became the first pastor of Lighthouse Baptist Church in 2002, serving the church for 22 years. In January of 2024, Tobe resigned as pastor to serve Safe Helps Group full time. In addition to being a lead pastor, Tobe was also a corporate chaplain for seven years and trained in crisis suicide intervention; serves as a Chaplain in the Wellness program of the Delaware State Police; serves on the DSP advisory council to New Castle County, Delaware; and helped lead the launch of Guiding Light Biblical Counseling in 2018. Tobe completed his bachelor’s and master’s degrees at Bob Jones University and was conferred a Doctor of Divinity from South India Baptist Bible College and Seminary in 2020. Amy has taught high school since 1993 in addition to serving as a ladies’ discipleship group teacher at LBC. As a gifted musician, Amy also runs her piano studio. Together, they have joyfully reared five amazing children.
